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Death Happens

Many of us imagine being at the bedside of someone we love when that person dies.  Being present sounds like the easiest thing, especially when death is expected.  But if you’re not there, does death wait?  Does it really matter? … Continue reading

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Gift of a Last Goodbye

Have you ever experienced something that seems miraculous? On Saturday morning John did not wake for breakfast.  That afternoon, while Kerry and Dick took a long walk, I sat beside John’s bed, holding his hand and stroking his arm.  Suddenly, … Continue reading

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One Minute You’re OK, the Next You’re Not

How do you feel when you’re focused on your own medical emergency and you learn that someone you love, who is in a hospice, has suffered a seizure? Speeding toward the hospice, I didn’t know what to expect.  John had … Continue reading

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Caregiver Stricken

There’s an adage about caregivers that goes something like this:  a caregiver needs to take care of the caregiver or she/he won’t be of much use to the patient.  Easier said than done.  How does one control for stress? After … Continue reading

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Hospice Social Worker Eases Anxiety

If you start breathing a little easier when a hospice social worker says “a lot can happen between now (Friday) and Tuesday,” what does that mean? My brain was on fire because the nurse had just told me I had … Continue reading

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Hospice Nurse Infuriates

How would you react if a hospice nurse told you that you have to move your loved one out of the inpatient hospice? My jaw dropped.  “What are you talking about?” I asked.  My husband was dying.  Of course, he … Continue reading

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Wine Tasting in Hospice Gazebo

Can you imagine participating in a wine-tasting after you are admitted to an inpatient hospice? After clearing it with the doctor, John’s brother Dick asked John if he’d like to taste some good red wine.  John nodded “Yes.”  Dick said … Continue reading

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Friends Arrive at Hospice to Say Goodbye

What might you do after your partner is taken to a hospice? As soon as I cancelled the caregivers scheduled to take care of John at home, I started calling our friends.  I told them that John had been taken … Continue reading

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Anniversary in Hospice

Many of us forget important dates once in a while.  Can you imagine forgetting your second wedding anniversary? It was our friend Marilyn who caught me by surprise when she arrived at the hospice to see John.  “I reminisced with … Continue reading

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Hospice Honeymoon

What do you think “honeymoon” means in a hospice? The morning after John was admitted as an inpatient, the hospice doctor tweaked John’s medication.  “This will allow him to be wakeful and responsive,” the doctor said.  “We call this the … Continue reading

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